About this blog

My life started out fairly boring.

I grew up in a small, low SES community in Central California. My parents raised us with conservative Christian beliefs. My family was dysfunctional, I was severely depressed and leaving to college was my only escape.

I attended a private Christian university for my undergrad degree, during which, I fell in love with my best friend. She just happened to be a girl. Having never been attracted to women before (I would later discover that the term for my unexpected attraction is pansexual) and being in an environment in which same sex relationships are condemned, this is where my life became interesting.

I married her (this was before same sex marriage was legal, so we did it old school: jumped the broom, walked around a fire, or simply put, we were married by heart), we lived in secret for 5 years, came out to our families, got condemned, developed some type of relationship again with family, and stayed together for a total of 13 years, during which we experienced the hardships that two minority women in a relationship tend to experience. Then her uncle, which I consider my uncle, got murdered, we got divorced (my decision), and my whole world crashed down.

Then I fell in love with a married man that I never met in person, was devastated when he broke my heart, went on an impulsive dating/sexing spree, and met the man who would become my husband. He also happened to be a perpetual bachelor who decided I was the one for him and so he became a reformed bachelor. So now I am managing married life with a man who’s last serious relationship was when he was in his 20’s (he is currently 45). It’s romantic, but it’s not always fun.

Oh yeah, then there’s my lifelong struggle with depression and the fact that I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. That’s me and what my blog is about.

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